Before You Start the Divorce Process…

If you approach the divorce process with a mindset like:

“I only will accept X, Y and Z and nothing else.”

..then not only won’t you do well in the mediation or collaborative process, you will spend a significant amount of unnecessary funds in the litigation process, as well.

Yes, you should have a basic plan. Yes, you should have an understanding of your financial picture and where you want to be at the end of the divorce. But you also need to be flexible and able to compromise. You also need to hear what your mediator is telling you. If you think you’ll be the first to get something no one else gets – what lawyers refer to as “making new law”- then great for you. But remember, you may not be successful and whether you are or are not, it will cost you thousands of dollars to get there.

For everyone else, consider these tips from Lorraine Breitman’s blog: