Be Super Heroes To Your Children

Divorcing parents: you can be super heroes to your children. Here's the plot twist: becoming their super hero means accepting that your children deserve to experience both a "Super-Mom" and "Super-Dad." Your marriage is ending, but your relationship as co-parents continues. Super hero status depends on whether you exercise your powers to communicate positively with your children about their other co-parent. They need your permission and encouragement, demonstrated by all of your words and actions, to enjoy their relationship with your ex-spouse and feel supported for doing so.

In this excellent blog posting, Michael Aurit outlines four commitments you can make as co-parents that will change the course of your children's lives.

1. Begin to access your super power--choose a healthier divorce.
2. Be truthful--but tell them only what they need to know.
3. Never argue with or criticize your co-parent in the presence of your children.
4. Proactively support your children's relationship with your co-parent.

The most heroic gift you can give your children is taking every opportunity possible to speak positively about your co-parent. Divorce in itself will not likely damage your children. However, how you choose to get divorced and behave after your divorcewill make the difference. Choose to be super heroes to your kids. In doing so, you may also discover that you are the greatest super hero to yourself.