Things All Men Should Understand About Divorce

The Huffington Post asked divorced men about the things every man needs to know if he finds himself faced with divorce papers. Here’s what they said:

• “Your friends can support you when you’re feeling at your lowest and you shouldn’t be shy about calling them whenever you need to talk.”
• “Don’t let ‘Damaged You’ make major life decisions or write checks for ‘Future You.”
• “You can’t jump into a new relationship until you are truly out of the old one.”
• “Keep the focus on the children at all times.”
• “Keep a calendar, and if your kids are old enough, teach them to add their events to it themselves.”
• “Be kind, even when it’s hard.”
• “Don’t try to be the ‘cool’ dad, be a father.”
• “Don’t say anything negative to your children about their mother.”
• “A big part of the healing work is understanding what your part was in the failed marriage.”
• “Give yourself one hour a day to think about what is going on in your life.”
• “Don’t expect a quick ending.”
• “I am lucky to say that I have a long list of things I am grateful for, which I add to every week.”