Divorce Envy

Divorce envy - the uncomfortable feeling that someone else's marriage is ending in a more graceful way than your own.

In this blog posting Amy SohnI writes how, in an era when child centrality reigns supreme and many Gen X–ers bear scars from their own parents' hostile uncouplings, the goal for a growing number of separating parties is no longer merely to "get through" a divorce but to emerge from it triumphantly at peace, having handled the dissolution of their marriage calmly, reasonably, and even lovingly.

Lisa Brateman, a psychotherapist and relationship specialist in New York, says that the phenomenon perpetuates itself. "Clients who see other couples go through seemingly amicable divorces may realize there are better ways to go about it than vengeance and retaliation," she says. "It doesn't have to be like The War of the Roses."

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