Building a Positive Co-Parenting Relationship After Divorce

Many couples dread talking to their ex-spouse about parenting issues. This is understandable, especially after a contentious separation or divorce. But by avoiding discussions about co-parenting, you unintentionally put the burden on your kids. They’re left to figure things out for themselves.

In this excellent blog posting Jenny Greenbaum outlines eight ways to build a shared vision of parenting with your ex-spouse so your children feel safe and loved as they adjust to their new life:

• Express your values - without demeaning your ex's values.
• Write down household rules or values.
• Create a divorce support network for yourself.
• Choose your parent-to-parent communication style.
• Decide on the role of your in-laws after divorce.
• Consider the help of a professional for co-parenting guidance.
• Don't undermine your former partner's parenting.
• Learn more about child development and behavior.