There are two approaches to a divorce: Treating it as war or as a civilized negotiation. In divorce litigation, attorneys treat everything as a property dispute: your money, your property, even your children. Divorce litigation is “in the moment” and reactive, focused on the battles and not the war.
In this excellent article, Susanne Hale writes that divorce mediation is typically less expensive, less hostile, and much faster. The reason for these benefits is simple; In divorce mediation the focus is not on winning a “battle” over a specific detail, but rather on the end game. Mediation begins with the end: Where do you want you and your family to be at the end of the divorce process?
That’s the key – by beginning the process with positives, with agreement, you set the tone. When disagreements spring up later, they’re easier to deal with, because you’re seeing them through the perspective of your overall goals.
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