The Risks of a Judge Deciding Your Divorce

Sometimes, during particularly taxing mediation sessions, one of my clients will say, "We’re not going to settle this. Let’s just go to court.”

Why not present all the issues to a judge who has decided hundreds of cases, can render objective decisions, and be done with it?

In this excellent article, Doris Tennant, writes that turning your life over to someone whose decisions may affect you for years–or even a lifetime–is risky business. A judge will never understand the history of your marriage, the intricacies of your financial situation, your children’s needs, and the ingredients that contributed to the end of your marriage. When push comes to shove, most people conclude that arriving at an agreement over which they have control, even if imperfect, is far better than seeking justice—often illusory–in a courtroom.

If you or someone you know could benefit from assistance in decision making during a divorce, contact Falmouth Mediation at 508-566-4159 for a free, no-obligation, private, confidential consultation. We will be happy to discuss the key details of your situation, address any concerns, and help you decide if divorce mediation would be beneficial.